ABC's of DV

Because spotting the signs can save your crown from tilting!

• Aggression: When they go from 0 to Hulk in seconds.
• Alienation: Slowly erasing your crew like it’s part of their evil genius plan.
• Accusations: You just went to Target, but somehow you’re in an episode of Cheaters.

• Belittling: Their “jokes” aren’t funny when the punchline is always you.
• Blaming: “You made me do it” is NOT an apology—it’s manipulation, sis.
• Boundary Bulldozing: Your “no” is a full sentence; don’t let them steamroll it.

• Control: When they wanna be your boss, your stylist, AND your GPS.
• Coercion: “If you loved me, you’d do it” is not romance—it’s a red flag.
• Chaos Creator: Stirring up drama like they’re auditioning for a soap opera.

• Deception: Lies on lies, and now you’re in a game of Two Truths and a Lie.
• Dependency Drama: Keeping you broke, stuck, or emotionally chained.
• Destruction: Breaking your stuff (or your spirit) isn’t just petty—it’s abuse.

• Exploitation: Treating your kindness like their personal ATM.
• Extreme Jealousy: Girl, they’re jealous of your shadow.
• Emotional Manipulation: Turning your feelings into their plaything.

• Financial Foolery: Locking up the coins while you hustle for loose change.
• Fear Factory: Using threats like they’re in a mob movie.
• Falsifying Reality: Gaslighting so strong you start doubting your own name.

• Guilt Trips: Turning everything into your fault like they’re writing the script.
• Gaslighting: “That didn’t happen” when it absolutely DID.
• Grudge Holding: Weaponizing yesterday’s drama to control today’s peace.

• Harassment: Blowing up your phone like they’ve got unlimited minutes.
• Humiliation: Shaming you in public like they forgot you’re the queen.
• Hostility: Bringing anger to the party when you didn’t even send an invite.

• Intimidation: Standing too close, yelling too loud—trying to shrink your power.
• Isolation: Cutting you off from your squad like it’s their full-time job.
• Invasion of Privacy: Snooping through your phone like it’s their diary.

• Judgment: Criticizing everything from your career to your favorite fries.
• Justifying Abuse: “It’s not that bad” isn’t a reason—it’s denial.

• Keeping Secrets: Hiding shady moves like they’re in witness protection.
• Knowledge Hoarding: Keeping you clueless to keep you powerless.

• Lying: Boldface lies about things you saw with your own eyes.
• Love-Bombing: Turning on the charm to distract you from the chaos.

• Manipulation: Pulling puppet strings when you’re NOT their marionette.
• Minimizing: Making you feel like you’re “overreacting” when you’re not.
• Monitoring: Stalking your socials like they’re your biggest hater.

• Name-Calling: Turning their words into weapons.
• Neglect: Ignoring your needs but demanding all your attention.
• Non-Consent: Crossing boundaries like they don’t exist.

• Obsession: Acting like they own you instead of love you.
• Overreacting: Flipping out over the tiniest things to keep you on edge.

• Physical Violence: A raised hand? That’s a raised alarm.
• Possessiveness: Acting like they put a trademark on you.
• Public Embarrassment: Airing dirty laundry to bring you down.

• Quarreling: Picking fights over nothing because peace isn’t on their playlist.
• Questioning Loyalty: Turning your every move into a loyalty test.

• Restricting Freedom: Your life isn’t a prison, but they’re acting like a warden.
• Ridicule: Mocking your dreams, goals, or even your playlist.
• Revenge Threats: Holding “what ifs” over your head like a dark cloud.

• Sexual Coercion: Your body, your rules—period.
• Silent Treatment: Weaponizing their silence to punish you.
• Stalking: Showing up uninvited like it’s normal.

• Threats: “If you leave…” doesn’t end well—so get support and go anyway.
• Tearing You Down: Piece by piece, trying to break the masterpiece that is YOU.
• Toxic Apologies: “I’m sorry, but…” isn’t an apology, it’s an excuse.

• Undermining: Subtly sabotaging your confidence and success.
• Unpredictability: Turning your life into a rollercoaster you didn’t ask for.

• Verbal Abuse: Words can cut deeper than knives.
• Victim-Blaming: Twisting the narrative to make you the villain.
• Violence: Any kind—it’s all unacceptable.

• Withholding: Affection, money, or support—used as a weapon.
• Word Traps: Twisting your words to make you look bad.

• Xenophobia: Using race, culture, or ethnicity as an excuse to demean you.
• Extreme Control: Micromanaging your every move like a puppet master.

• Yelling: Louder doesn’t make them right.
• Yearning for Power: Always trying to one-up you instead of lifting you.

Z

• Zero Accountability: Refusing to own their mess and blaming it on you.
• Zoning In: Finding your weak spots just to exploit them.

Take the crown back, sis. Your dignity is non-negotiable. 

If any of these hit home, don’t ignore it—reach out for help and remember, Dignified Paths is here to guide you!